The Mildly Dissatisfied and Insecure

We have evolved to always live with a certain degree of dissatisfaction, and insecurity, because it’s the mildly dissatisfied and insecure creature that’s going to do most of the work to innovate and survive. We are wired to become dissatisfied with whatever we have and satisfied by only what we do not have. This constant dissatisfaction has kept our species fighting and striving, building and conquering. So no – our own pain and misery aren’t a bug of human evolution; they’re a feature.

– Mark Manson in The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

Does this explain why we feel something is missing – when things are going well for us, and why a non-existential threat which makes us struggle makes us happier…


On time-luxuriousness

“Stopping = white space. Stopping = room to run free and create from the deepest place of being without restraint or compromise. Stopping = more time for what matters most. You know how to go, go go. Stopping, however, is the stuff of smiley Zen masters with all the time in the world.”
– The Fire Starter Sessions, Danielle LaPorte

What is the word to describe this:

the stuff of smiley Zen masters with all the time in the world

We have time-starved, rushing, busy. But what is the opposite of that? What is the one word for that? The best I can come up with is time-luxuriousness.


January 2017 Reading Log

Here is my reading log from January 2017. It has been a year since I last updated my reading logs here. But I am back. And with a new and improved clickable HTML table – as opposed to the images I was posting last year. Now, clicking on the book titles will take you to their Amazon pages via my affiliate link.


The best fiction book I read in January is Throne of the Crescent Moon by Saladin Ahmed. The world building is amazing. The plot is quite different, and the setting is muslim / arabic / desert. Something I just don’t get to read often. Very highly recommended for those who like well written, beautiful stories with unorthodox heroes. I am now eagerly waiting for the next instalment in this series. A very close runner-up was N.K.Jemisin’s The Fifth Season – again, the first book in the series.

For my fiction pick, it has to be The E-Myth Revisited by Michel E.Gerber – just because of the sheer amount I learnt about starting and running a small-business. Practial, eminently useful and the timing for this information was just right – and so this book won over both Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harris and
Spark Joy by Marie Kondo
, both excellent books which I will be re-reading.

January 2017

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
1 2 3 4
Tribe
Sebastian Junger
(library book)
5 6 7
8 9 10 11
Sapiens
Yuval Noah Harari
(book)
12 13 14
15 16 17 18
The Fifth Season
N.K.Jemisin
(library ebook)
19 20 21
22 23
Spark Joy
Marie Kondo
(library book)
24 25
Throne of the Crescent Moon
Saladin Ahmed
(library book)
26
The E-Myth Revisited
Michael E. Gerber
(ebook)
27 28
29 30 31

You can find all my previous Reading logs here


Debbie Millman on sensitivity and rejection

“I have noticed a pattern in my life of being very easily hurt by an initial rejection, so much so that it thwarts any other attempt at making something like that happen for a very long time. I am extremely sensitive and any rejection takes me off of that path for a very long time. It takes me a long time to recover.”

“I am somebody that has a very hard time taking ‘No’ for an answer. It takes me a long time to recalibrate and get my courage back to continue to keep trying.”

Damn. Is she talking about me or herself? I never considered myself the sensitive type – but this pattern Debbie is talking about, that’s me. And maybe, just maybe, it might be about you too. If so, this other part where she talks about what to do about this pattern might help us:

“Don’t ever accept that first rejection ever. Give yourself options. The timeliness of those options or the timeliness of those retries – do at your own pace. You are not in competition with anybody but yourself.”

From Tim Ferriss’s podcast interview with Debbie Millman – #214 – How to Design a Life – Debbie Millman


The Romance of Tangents

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A tangent is a line which meets a circle at one point and one point only – the poignant point of tangency, and never ever meets the circle again, even if extended.

Can you hear the tangent singing James Blunt’s “You’re beautiful”?

“And I don’t think that I’ll
See her again
But we shared a moment
That will last ’til the end”

You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
You’re beautiful
It’s true”